Saturday, June 28, 2008

Am I too demanding?


Sometimes I wonder if I'm too demanding when it comes to my family and friends.
I get often criticized, specially by my mom, 'cause I wanted other people to be more like me...
There are 2 values that I consider extremely important in my life : Family and Friendship.
Because of this I'm getting more and more disappointed every single day...
I give my self heart and soul to the ones I really care
about. And a I love to see a smile on a friends face. I know I'm a good listener, but I know I'm a great talker too! I'm always there when they need me, but unfortunately they aren't always there for me (except one dear friend).
When a dear person of mine is going through some rough times, I'm the first to reach my hand...Am I being too demanding if I expect a "thank u" instead of being ignored?
What about the "friends" that at the minute I get online, instantanly disappear?? In this last year I've noticed that I was the only one who was always checking on them...So I decided that that was it! I had enough with this situation!...
This was the reason why I've stopped posting in
Portuguese. It wasn't worth it!
I have to say that I feel much better since I started blogging around in foreign
blogs. I've made a nice handful of new friends now.
My mom says: "But u don't really know them! They can be the opposite of what u think they are!"
Well, I know some people since ever and lately I've been finding out that after all, I don't really know them!
I'm glad to vent out and see some feedback.
I'm glad to get to know wonderful people like
Toni, Tammy, Tina, Angeline, Shireen, Petula and most recently Kellan...
I'm glad to be able to share my life experiences and get to learn from others as well...
I'm glad to know that I'm not alone and all around the world there are women dealing with the same issues than I...
Am I too demanding if I expect my family and friends to remember me and my kids?...
I don't really know...
Maybe I am...

9 comments:

The New Mom on the Blog said...

My dear! I used to feel the same way as you. I learnt it the even harder way - I was betrayed time and time again by people whom I love and whom I thought loved me....

I've learnt - when there's not expectation, there's no disappointment. Help becos I want to, not becos I hope they will appreciate.

Thank you girl for listing me as one of your 'wonderful people'.

Yes you may not know me, but I've learnt something about this blog world. Everyone say something from their heart, not a made up story to impress anyone - 'cos ultimately, a blog is a diary....

Kelly said...

Wow, you know I have felt that way many times recently. Seems like I'm always the one coordinating all of the get togethers and such. I go out of my way for everyone else. I would certainly hope that if I needed them, they would do the same for me, but there are some that I'm not sure about. I'm trying hard to just be around the positive people in my life, the ones that make me happy and stop worrying so much about everyone and everything else but it's hard.

Tina said...

people dont really understand blogging and the wonderful people you meet unless they do it themselves i guess.

You would know people cause its a personal blog isnt it?

I think its prob your mom just being a typical mom!

Your right to want people to return your friendship in real life. If you care about them why shouldnt they you too 8ujn?

I only really have 3 friends outside the blogging world, but thats enough for me.

Tina said...

p.s i forgot to say thanks for saying im one of your friends in blogging world- thats sweet x

Tammy said...

Some of my dearest and kindest friends are ones I have met online through blogging and I am proud to say that you are one of those friends.

Weber said...

Hi there, I saw you on Kelly's blog and decided to take a look at yours. I too know how you feel. I often seem to get walked all over by my neighbors and they never seem to return any favors. However, I just do what I do because that's just me - I like to be nice and help people out whenever I can. I guess they are the way they are because that's just them. Too bad for them. :)

Nice to "meet" you.

Kellan said...

Thanks so much for listing me in your newest list of friends, as I consider you TOTALLY a friend and am so looking forward to getting to know you much better.

Hope you are having a good weekend - see you soon - Kellan

Cátia said...

Amiga linda, a minha mãe diz-me o mesmo, deixa lá!
Mas tens razão, não acho que exijas muito...
Beijos

Toni said...

I am sorry that you have those feelings. And I appreciate you saying such a nice thing about me. I think that everyone of us have that someone or multiple someones that don't always reciprocate our kindness and level of friendship.

Over the years I have had disappointments in this area as well and have to remember that I do what I do for others for them and not for the thanks... Sometimes I don't always remember that and even when I do it still hurts but I just have to shake it off and not forget the kind and generous people I do have in my life!